Rajbinder "Raj" Kalirai

• Stress and anxiety
• Relationship issues
• Trauma and abuse

About Rajbinder

Rajbinder "Raj" Kalirai helps people with stress, anxiety, relationship concerns, trauma and abuse, and anger. She uses talk-based methods that focus on the person in front of her and practical ways to manage difficult feelings. Rajbinder is a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and has eight years' experience.

She works in a client-centred way, listening to what matters to each person and building sessions around their priorities. Rajbinder also draws on cognitive behavioural ideas to spot unhelpful thinking patterns and on acceptance and commitment strategies to support values-based action. Emotionally focused and attachment-based methods are used where relationships and closeness are central to the issues presented.

Sessions are conversational and structured when needed. Rajbinder will help people identify small, achievable steps to reduce distress and improve day-to-day coping. Practical exercises and reflective discussion are both used in sessions depending on what the person prefers.

Her practice covers a wide range of concerns including depression, addictions, grief, intimacy-related issues, eating worries, parenting strain, work and career pressures, and ADHD-related difficulties. She also supports people facing abandonment, foster care or adoption questions, attachment-related struggles, body image problems, and the impact of illness.

Rajbinder offers work in English and in Hindi, Punjabi and Urdu. She accepts international clients and uses her clinical approaches to match the method to the person rather than using a one-size-fits-all model.

How her approaches translate to online work

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) focuses on helping people notice difficult thoughts and feelings and take action that fits their values; it can help with anxiety, low mood and major life transitions. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at patterns in close relationships and how early connections shape current ways of relating; it can help when relationship difficulties, abandonment or attachment issues are present. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) involves identifying and testing unhelpful thoughts and building practical skills to reduce distress, which suits problems such as anxiety and depression.

Finding the right approach is part of the work together. The counsellor will discuss the person’s goals and preferences and recommend one or a mix of methods. That choice is reviewed as therapy progresses so the plan can change if needed.

Confirm the available session formats before booking, as the biography does not list them. Online sessions can make it easier to fit counselling into a busy week, reduce travel time and allow regular short check-ins when full sessions are difficult. They also let people choose whether to use video or an alternative format where that is supported, depending on what helps them engage and take part in exercises or reflections.

Topics Rajbinder lists

• Stress and anxiety
• Relationship issues
• Trauma and abuse
• Anger management
• Depression
• Addictions
• LGBT
• Family conflicts
• Grief
• Intimacy-related issues
• Eating disorders
• Parenting issues
• Self-esteem
• Career difficulties
• Coping with life changes
• Coaching
• Compassion fatigue
• ADHD
• Abandonment
• Adoption and foster care
• Attachment issues
• Avoidant personality
• Blended family issues
• Body image
• Cancer
• Co-morbidity
• Codependency
• Commitment issues
• Communication problems
• Control issues
• Dissociation
• Divorce and separation
• Domestic violence
• Drug and alcohol addiction
• Eating and food-related issues
• Emptiness
• Family of origin issues
• Family problems
• Fatherhood issues
• Fertility issues
• First responder issues
• Forgiveness
• Gender dysphoria
• Guilt and shame
• Hoarding
• Hospice and end-of-life counselling
• Immigration issues
• Infidelity
• Isolation and loneliness
• Jealousy
• Life purpose
• Midlife crisis
• Multicultural concerns
• Narcissism
• Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
• Phobias
• Polyamory and non-monogamous relationships
• Postpartum depression
• Post-traumatic stress
• Pregnancy and childbirth
• Prejudice and discrimination
• Self-harm
• Self-love
• Sexual assault and abuse
• Sexuality
• Social anxiety and phobia
• Women's issues
• Workplace issues
• Young adult issues

Ways of working

• Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
• Attachment-Based Therapy
• Client-Centred Therapy
• Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
• Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
• Mindfulness Therapy
• Psychodynamic Therapy
• Solution-Focused Therapy
• Trauma-Focused Therapy
• Internal Family Systems

Questions about Rajbinder

Does she work with anxiety?

Yes. Anxiety and stress feature among the main concerns she helps people with, including practical coping strategies and thinking-based techniques.

What kind of counselling does she offer?

She uses client-centred counselling alongside cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), attachment-based work and emotionally focused approaches.

How much experience does she have?

She has eight years' experience working as a counsellor and psychotherapeutic practitioner.

Is she registered with a professional body in the UK?

Yes. She is a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).

Can I have sessions in languages other than English?

Sessions are offered in English, Hindi, Punjabi and Urdu.

What session formats does she offer?

Please confirm current session options before booking, as the biography does not specify which formats are offered.

How much do sessions cost?

Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.

How do I get started with her?

Select the Talk to a counsellor online button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.