Benedicta Okoli

• Relationships
• Trauma and abuse
• CBT and ACT

About Benedicta

Benedicta Okoli helps people with relationship difficulties, trauma, anxiety and a wide range of life challenges using talking therapy and coaching methods. She is a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and has nine years' experience working with individuals and couples.

She offers practical sessions that focus on what is happening now and on patterns that repeat in relationships. Benedicta draws on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to look at thoughts and behaviours, and uses Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) techniques to help people settle on values and small doable steps.

Attachment-based ideas are used to look at how early relationships affect current connections. That can be helpful for people dealing with abandonment, attachment concerns, blended family tensions, or intimacy problems. She also draws on Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) skills for emotion regulation and distress tolerance when feelings feel overwhelming.

Benedicta works with a long and wide list of presenting concerns including addictions, depression, bipolar issues, grief, parenting strain, career stress, eating and sleeping problems, and aspects of sexual health such as kink and BDSM culture. She also lists ADHD, compassion fatigue, and chronic illness among the issues she supports people with.

The site uses a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time, and fees vary by location. To begin, use the Talk to a counsellor online button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.

How her approaches are used in online work

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice thoughts and choose actions that match their values; it is often used for anxiety, low mood and life changes. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at early relationship patterns and how they shape current connections, which can help with intimacy, abandonment and family conflict. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) focuses on the links between thoughts, feelings and behaviours and is useful for anxiety, depression and stress.

Choosing the right therapeutic approach is part of the therapy process. Benedicta will work with each client to decide which methods suit their goals and preferences, and she adjusts plans as progress is made. This is a collaborative process where goals and methods are discussed and reviewed together.

The biography does not list specific session formats, so please confirm which formats are offered before booking. Online sessions can make it easier to fit counselling into daily life, for example by avoiding travel or fitting a short check-in during a work break. They also allow people to attend from a location that suits them and can reduce the time commitment around each appointment. Registered or accredited professionals often use online sessions to keep continuity of care when schedules or circumstances change.

Topics Benedicta lists

• Addictions
• Relationship issues
• Family conflicts
• Trauma and abuse
• Self-esteem
• Stress and anxiety
• LGBT
• Grief
• Intimacy-related issues
• Eating disorders
• Sleeping disorders
• Parenting issues
• Anger management
• Career difficulties
• Bipolar disorder
• Depression
• Coping with life changes
• Coaching
• Compassion fatigue
• ADHD
• Abandonment
• Adoption and foster care
• Aging and geriatric issues
• Antisocial personality
• Attachment issues
• Autism and Asperger Syndrome
• Avoidant personality
• BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
• Blended family issues
• Body image
• Cancer
• Caregiver issues and stress
• Chronic pain, illness, and disability
• Codependency
• Commitment issues
• Communication problems
• Control issues
• Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
• Dependent personality
• Dissociation
• Divorce and separation
• Domestic violence
• Drug and alcohol addiction
• Eating and food-related issues
• Emptiness
• Family of origin issues
• Family problems
• Fatherhood issues
• Fertility issues
• Forgiveness
• Gender dysphoria
• Guilt and shame
• HIV and AIDS
• Hoarding
• Hospice and end-of-life counselling
• Immigration issues
• Impulsivity
• Infidelity
• Intellectual disability
• Isolation and loneliness
• Jealousy
• Life purpose
• Men's issues
• Midlife crisis
• Veteran and armed forces issues
• Money and financial issues
• Mood disorders
• Multicultural concerns
• Narcissism
• Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
• Panic disorder and panic attacks
• Paranoia
• Personality disorders
• Phobias
• Polyamory and non-monogamous relationships
• Postpartum depression
• Post-traumatic stress
• Pregnancy and childbirth
• Prejudice and discrimination
• Process addictions
• Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
• Self-harm
• Self-love
• Sex addiction
• Sexual assault and abuse
• Sexual dysfunction
• Sexuality
• Quitting smoking or vaping
• Social anxiety and phobia
• Women's issues
• Workplace issues
• Young adult issues

Ways of working

• Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
• Attachment-Based Therapy
• Client-Centred Therapy
• Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
• Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)
• Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
• Existential Therapy
• Mindfulness Therapy
• Motivational Interviewing
• Narrative Therapy
• Psychodynamic Therapy
• Solution-Focused Therapy
• Somatic Therapy
• Trauma-Focused Therapy
• Internal Family Systems

Questions about Benedicta

Does she work with anxiety and depression?

Yes. The biography lists anxiety, depression and bipolar issues among the concerns she addresses.

What kind of counselling does she offer?

She uses several approaches including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT).

What experience does she have?

She has nine years' experience working with individuals and couples, as stated in the biography.

Is she registered with a professional body in the UK?

Yes. The biography lists membership of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, shown as BACP.

Which languages are sessions offered in?

Sessions are offered in English and Igbo.

What session formats are available?

The biography does not specify session formats; please confirm current session options before booking.

How much do sessions cost?

Cost varies with location and sessions are accessed via a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.

How do I get started?

Use the Talk to a counsellor online button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule your first session.