Toby "Benjamin" Stimpson

• Stress and anxiety
• LGBT concerns
• Intimacy and kink

About Toby

Toby "Benjamin" Stimpson helps people address stress, anxiety, intimacy concerns, self-esteem and LGBT-related issues using an integrative counselling approach. He is a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS), and has six years' experience and over 1,400 hours of direct client work.

Benjamin works with adults aged 18 and over. He focuses on patterns that affect relationships and how people relate to themselves. He also supports those coping with not fitting in, and with issues linked to gender dysphoria, body image, and sexual expression including BDSM and kink culture.

His practice draws on a range of evidence-based techniques combined into an integrative style. That means sessions can include discussions of attachment, communication habits, and practical steps to manage anxiety and stress. He also offers coaching-style support for goal setting and confidence building.

Benjamin has worked in both Canada and the United Kingdom. This background informs his work with immigrants and people navigating cultural change, including North Americans living in the UK. He also has experience supporting people living with HIV and those dealing with ageing or geriatric concerns.

The clinical focus includes family of origin and blended family issues, codependency, guilt and shame, and forgiveness work. Sessions typically involve talking through patterns, identifying practical changes, and checking progress against agreed goals.

How evidence-based approaches are used in online sessions

Benjamin adopts an integrative style that draws on evidence-based techniques. Cognitive and behavioural elements focus on identifying unhelpful thinking and building practical coping skills to reduce anxiety and stress. Attachment-informed work looks at relationship patterns and how past experiences shape current ways of relating, which can help with intimacy and communication issues.

Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. Benjamin will work with the client to agree goals and try approaches that match those goals, adjusting methods as progress is reviewed and preferences are expressed.

The practical benefits of online sessions include fitting counselling into a busy week and keeping appointments without travel. The biography does not specify session formats, so please confirm current session options before booking. Online work can make shorter check-ins easier and can suit quieter surroundings or times when a full in-person visit is difficult to arrange.

Topics Toby lists

• Stress and anxiety
• LGBT
• Intimacy-related issues
• Self-esteem
• Coaching
• Aging and geriatric issues
• Attachment issues
• BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
• Blended family issues
• Body image
• Codependency
• Communication problems
• Emptiness
• Family of origin issues
• Family problems
• Forgiveness
• Gender dysphoria
• Guilt and shame
• HIV and AIDS
• Immigration issues
• Isolation and loneliness
• Jealousy
• Life purpose
• Men's issues
• Midlife crisis
• Money and financial issues
• Mood disorders
• Multicultural concerns
• Narcissism
• Polyamory and non-monogamous relationships
• Post-traumatic stress
• Prejudice and discrimination
• Self-love
• Sexuality
• Social anxiety and phobia
• Workplace issues

Questions about Toby

Does he work with anxiety?

Yes. He helps people manage stress and anxiety through practical strategies and exploring patterns that maintain worry.

What kind of counselling approach does he use?

He uses an integrative counselling approach, combining evidence-based techniques with coaching elements to suit individual needs.

How much experience does he have?

He has six years' experience and over 1,400 hours of direct client work in both Canada and the United Kingdom.

Where is he based?

He practises in the United Kingdom and is registered with BACP and NCPS as supplied.

Can I have sessions in languages other than English?

Sessions are offered in English only.

How much do sessions cost?

Cost varies with location; sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.

How do I start working with him?

Select the Talk to a counsellor online button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and schedule your first session.