Helen Lamming

• Relationship issues
• Parenting and blended family
• Attachment focused work

About Helen

Helen Lamming works on relationship and family concerns, including intimacy, parenting and anger, using an approach that centres the client's own knowledge and strengths. She is registered with NCPS and has 11 years' experience in counselling.

Helen helps people talk through relationship difficulties and family problems in clear, practical ways. She supports conversations about attachment, communication breakdowns, separation and divorce, and issues around commitment and codependency. She also works with concerns linked to autism and Asperger syndrome, avoidant personality patterns, and some sexual subcultures such as BDSM and kink.

Her work draws on attachment-based ideas and Emotionally-Focused Therapy to map how patterns between people keep repeating. She uses client-centred methods to make sessions collaborative and Trauma-Focused approaches when past events affect current relationships. Internal Family Systems is another influence she brings to understanding self-splitting and internal parts.

Helen's background includes extensive counselling roles at Relate and over 4,000 hours of practice. She holds a Master of Education in Psychology of Education, a BA (Hons) in Psychology and a range of CPCAB diplomas in family and relationship counselling. She also has a Certificate of Proficiency and a PGCE.

She offers short-term agreements for a fixed number of sessions or ongoing open-ended work. Sessions are provided online and Helen welcomes people from the UK and international clients who can work in English.

How her approaches work in online sessions

Helen commonly draws on Attachment-Based Therapy and Emotionally-Focused Therapy. Attachment-based work looks at how early relationships shape current responses and helps people notice repeating patterns in close relationships. Emotionally-Focused Therapy focuses on the emotions that sit behind interactions and helps partners or individuals to change how they respond to each other.

She also uses Client-Centred methods to keep the work collaborative, placing the client's experience at the centre of each session. This means the counsellor listens, reflects and helps clarify goals so the client can decide what feels most useful going forward. Finding the right mix of approaches is part of the work together and Helen will discuss options based on each person's needs and preferences.

Sessions are provided online; please confirm the exact session formats before booking. Online appointments can make it easier to fit counselling around work, childcare and travel, and they allow shorter check-ins or longer blocks depending on what suits the client. Many people find remote sessions reduce travel time and help maintain continuity of care alongside busy daily life.

Topics Helen lists

• Relationship issues
• Family conflicts
• Intimacy-related issues
• Parenting issues
• Anger management
• Attachment issues
• Autism and Asperger Syndrome
• Avoidant personality
• BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
• Blended family issues
• Codependency
• Commitment issues
• Communication problems
• Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
• Dissociation
• Divorce and separation
• Domestic violence
• Family of origin issues
• Family problems
• Fertility issues
• Gender dysphoria
• HIV and AIDS
• Infidelity
• Intellectual disability
• Jealousy
• Midlife crisis
• Veteran and armed forces issues
• Money and financial issues
• Multicultural concerns
• Narcissism
• Personality disorders
• Polyamory and non-monogamous relationships
• Post-traumatic stress
• Process addictions
• Sexual assault and abuse
• Young adult issues

Ways of working

• Attachment-Based Therapy
• Client-Centred Therapy
• Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
• Trauma-Focused Therapy
• Internal Family Systems

Questions about Helen

Does she work with relationship problems?

Yes. She works with relationship difficulties including communication, intimacy and commitment issues.

What kind of counselling does she offer?

She uses Attachment-Based, Client-Centred and Emotionally-Focused approaches alongside Trauma-Focused Therapy and Internal Family Systems.

How many years of experience does she have?

She has 11 years of counselling experience and over 4,000 hours of direct practice.

Where is she based and what are her credentials?

She is based in the United Kingdom and holds NCPS accreditation, CPCAB diplomas, an M.Ed in Psychology of Education and a BA (Hons) in Psychology.

Can I have sessions in languages other than English?

Sessions are offered in English.

Does she work with international clients?

Yes. She accepts international clients who can work in English.

How much do sessions cost?

Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time.

How do I start counselling with her?

Use the Talk to a counsellor online button, complete a short matching questionnaire and then schedule your first session.